As I start this blog, some of you might be wondering, "why would anyone make a blog like this?" Well, I was thinking the same thing for some time, but it is something that I have found that I need to do. As I write this my ninth anniversary is a little less than a month away. I still don't have any plans for it. I know that my wife and I will be apart for it (work related), and I haven't even started to look for a gift yet. Short and simple I have become one of "those guys." I didn't think that it would happen to me, but looking back on my relationship with my wife, it actually started quite early, and I have been unwilling to take that look in the mirror to truly change it. Sure I would do nice things for her once in a while, and I am very supportive of her hobbies and passions, but overall, I really haven't provided the type of relationship that not only she, but I deserve.
To give a little background, we got married young, not too young, but young, and I didn't really have a direction in my life. I kind of knew what I wanted to do, but I didn't have a plan. All I knew is that I was in love with this woman, and I still am even more than ever. She on the other hand, was highly motivated (she still is), and was looking forward to going to college. I know that I will probably get some hateful comments from the women out there, but she gave up college and married me (believe me, I was with you for a long time). Now, nine years have passed, we have three beautiful children, and I am in the military and pursuing my degree. She is still as amazing as ever, is currently pursuing one of her many talents, and has only grown in beauty.
The problem is this, I have never been the most motivated, or confident of people, and I am not a great planner, gift giver, etc.. In other words, I am a simple man, give me a smile and a kiss and I am good. I never really realized this was a problem (even though I have been told many times by my wife), until now. This has caused our relationship to become very fragile, and in all honesty I am worried about the outcome. Men, I want you to listen to me when I say, our wives are beautiful and they deserve to be paid the utmost respect. Like I said, I don't consider myself a bad guy, just stupid. I say stupid because in the past nine years, even though I have given my wife all the time that I could, I haven't nearly paid enough attention to her wants and desires.
And that brings me to the point of this blog. It is my intention, over the next year (i.e. by my wife and I's 10th anniversary) to completely change my thoughtless, uncaring ways, and believe me I am open to suggestions. I will track my progress over the following months of what I am doing to better myself for my wife. To some this may sound like I have given up my manhood. On the contrary, I have found it and I know that being with this woman is where I want it to be.